James 3 is all about the tongue and how we use it, the power of words and the need for self-control. We think only this generation could possibly be cynical enough to hurt others with the things we say. Not so … that problem was as rife in the early church.
Well James feels that
it is a hindrance to harmony. So instead of looking for the practical path to
spirituality, he addresses practical hindrances to that outcome.
Managing the behavior is not enough.
Root cause analysis is
needed, because even if we do control our tongue, we still need to understand
our feelings and sort them out.
The roots of envy and
strife trace back to Cain and Abel. What caused Cain to kill his brother? After
all, the consequences of an unbridled tongue will be death.
Cain’s crisis was
rooted in a rejected sacrifice. He couldn’t deal with that lead balloon feeling
when we contribute something that holds meaning to us, but to no one else.
My precious wife is hard
to please with gifts. She is not materialistic, but has specific tastes. I have
bought her jewelry, clothes, shoes and things for the house – it never works.
Okay, so I adjusted
and in so doing I found a way to make my offering acceptable – she loves the
gesture but now also loves the gift because she has a say in it.
Looking beyond Abel’s worthy sacrifice.
God related to his
offering, not to Cain’s. He never rejected Cain, only his sacrifice. He also
offered him a chance to put it right, knowing that sin lay at the door. He
didn’t.
Finding God’s sweet spot involves many variables. Its true of everything in life.
Though my boss was a seeing learner, I tried to tell him things. It was all
just blah-blah-blah and misty eyes, until I learnt that pictures work better.
When I got that right he said, “now we are cooking on gas” – and we got on like
“a house on fire”.
Can golf be played
without adjustments and refinements in technique or posture – nope. Same again
for any sport. Public speaking too. Serving God is no different.
The Lord has His
personal likes and dislikes, but His reasons are deeper than a simple
preference for color or a style. His preferences are always rooted in His
redemptive plan.
Far, far too many have
chosen to get around that and do it their own way. It doesn’t work – never has,
never will. How, how, how can a sacrifice of any form not regard the pleasure
of the recipient as the best point of departure, is quite beyond me. What is
the point?
Jimmy Carter, a not
too bright peanut farmer, kissed Queen Elizabeth on the lips. He flagrantly
ignored protocols that were there to avoid just the kind of embarrassment that
resulted. She was not pleased. Yet she is not some cold soul. She is an
astonishing woman.
We need to be needed
Behind all these
things is a need to be accepted. Here is some very important news for you – God
has a place for you. He knows that our greatest need, beyond money, sex, sleep,
food or other material needs, is a need to belong.
It reminds me of a
Giles cartoon of group of feminists outside a British airbase, protesting
against nuclear weapons. They had tied a hapless man a post, for “reproductive purposes
only”.
God wants every soul
to belong, to really belong. Paul’s teachings on the body, describe us all as
vital parts of the body, just as arms and feet are to our own bodies.
I so hate the clergy-laity
model, because it uses people as a platform for the egos of a few – which
implies that it is “their church” and that we are less than sons or
stakeholders. As such, their need for relevance eclipses
that need in others. That's why Jesus rejected titles.
What harm that has
done to God’s redemptive plan. It is no wonder that the majority of atheists
used to go to church until they were overwhelmed with cynicism.
What is the earthly
value of redeeming souls, with blood, only to reduce them to hired hands and
pew warmers? Rebellion in children is thanks to fathers not being present, not
caring enough about who their kids are or what they are achieving. It is no
less true of God’s kids.
To my mind, if you
want low-maintenance children (who doesn’t), tell them (as James said, words
matter), watch when they say watch, be there for them, include them in all you
do, value them, but also honor them with a solid marriage – and they will give
you few troubles.
To Pastors who promote
themselves and suppress their “sons” or reduce them to mere observer status, I
say this: don’t be surprised by undercurrents. Another bit of research confirms
how many church pillars are walking away, because they are tired of just being
pillars.
We must adjust our approach or we will hit and
miss
However, none of that
changes what we must do to push in. It brings me to the real rub of my last
post. If God said that He raises up or puts down and that promotion comes from
Him, let it be so.
However, there has to
be some fight in us. Jacob wrestled with God until God blessed him and he
fought against his father’s deprecations. He refused to be put down.
There is a place for
all of us. Not as a future car-park attendant or hand-shaker, but as worthy
sons with worthy offerings to bring to our father. But as much as God calls you
to that, it will never happen unless you push into it. As you do, you will
adjust.
You can only steer a
moving vehicle. So too for God. If you have the passion and desire to be a part
of what He is doing, which is what Jacob desired, He will steer you to a “place
of your own” as He did for Caleb.
(c) Peter Missing: bethelstone@gmail.com
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